More often than I can consider coincidental, people are puzzled as to how I can identify as polyamorous at times when I am currently participating in fewer than two loving relationships. It seems that in the minds of many, polyamory is merely a particular practice -- that is, the practice of being in multiple simultaneous loving relationships.
While this may be true for many, for me polyamory is much more about who I am, rather than what I do or the situation in which I find myself. What makes me polyamorous is my capacity for loving others and my desire to share love with more than just one person...not the number of boyfriends I have.
Yet, some folks don't quite get this. Not just monogamous folks who've heard about polyamory and don't really "get it", but also many couple-centric polys and polyfidelitous folks as well. They seem to think that it's nothing more than a lifestyle choice -- like opting to live in a city rather than the suburbs. Perhaps that's all polyamory really is to some. To me it's less of a choice and more of an orientation. It's not a sexual orientation. It's more like the orientation of my heart.